The Shame of Wanting

As I started to feel better, the guilt and shame crept in. How dare I enjoy any of this? I beat it back by reminding myself that I was doing this today so that I could work for the rest of the week. And then I paused and wondered - what the hell is so wrong with just wanting things?

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Mothers And Daughters And Sons

We don’t have a formal diagnosis yet, but it has become clear that my son is dealing with some serious anxiety. He’s suffering. He’s six years old and in the first grade and this is so deeply wrong and unfair that it fills my entire self with rage, terror, and tears.

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Parenting When YOU Are The Risk Factor

Not only can we prevent ACEs from happening to our children and the children close to us, but we can also help prevent ACEs that have already happened from negatively affecting our kids long term. So even though I can’t wave a magic wand and rid myself of my own past traumas or mental illness, I can help ensure that my children don’t suffer for them. And so can you. 

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I Don't Care If You're A Good Mom

Are you a good mom? What does that even mean?

I cannot explain to you the depths to which I could not possibly care less.

But Graeme, you coach moms! You support moms! You read about, write about, teach about, am friends with, and have a mom! You are literally THE MOM FOR MOMS!!! So how can you not be invested in good mothering?

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This Is Us: So Many Beths

This is not a hot take on Beth and Randall’s relationship in This Is Us. I’m not in that writer’s room and I don’t know if their marriage is in trouble or if it was just saved. The truth is that none of us ever know, in those major moments in our lives, whether we have just saved everyone or lit the match that will burn it all down.

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