All tagged change
The problems we face are massive, they are legion, and they are deeply complex. Creating sustainable change requires acknowledging when, where, and how we’ve been complicit in the past and it usually requires us losing something in the future - power, money, status, safety.
It’s much more simple to put a sign on the lawn. Or a magnet on the fridge. To buy a t-shirt. Or donate to a cause. It feels good. It feels like we’ve done something and like we’ve shown our children who we are.
There is no doubt in my mind that we need more than one revolution to create a world that is worthy of our children. Looking around at the world through their eyes sometimes I can see only what’s wrong, what’s broken, what I don’t want for them. I see massive systemic issues that affect us on global, national, regional, and local scales. It’s overwhelming - and yet I have two small people who are looking to me to make things right for them.
Normal is how we got here in the first place. Normal always, ALWAYS left other mothers out. Normal consigned other mothers to the isolation that we’ve all experienced this year.
I’m 39 and thinking about my 40’s. I’ve been excited about being 40 for a long, long time. 40 seems to be when black women bloom, when we stop taking everyone’s shit and go full on auntie and I cannot wait. I want that. Being able to say, “Look child, I am 40 damn years old”, feels like permission from the universe, God, and my ancestors to be fully, wholly ME.
Merriam-Webster defines a boundary as something that indicates a fixed limit or extent. It is a dividing line. We all have boundaries - there are things we will not do, things we will not accept, choices we have made about how we live our lives. Last week we talked about how you know where you need boundaries. It’s time to go deeper.
The holidays are coming, y’all, and with them can come family, friends, travel, obligations, budgets, and stress. So this month we are going to focus on how you can create beautiful boundaries in order to have truly happy holidays.
